And this, I console myself, is why my first messages on Ok Cupid so often go unanswered: in NYC, millennial men reply to only 24% of all messages they receive — the only place the odds are less favorable is Los Angeles.
And it’s even harder for men; New York the very worst US city for guys messaging women, who reply to men’s messages only 10% of the time.
Since most romance is local, I've spent the last few days sorting through Census data on the country's 100 or so largest metro areas to figure out where the disparities are worst -- or in other words, where a college-educated woman might have the hardest time finding a good date.
This data captures dating patterns in broad strokes — it certainly doesn’t mean that every guy you meet in NYC is looking for an open relationship.
But for every ten guys under 35 with a diploma, there are roughly 18 female college grads the same age roaming the city's greater metro area. Of course, Sarasota is just an extreme example of what's true all over America.
The number of college-educated women now far outstrips the number of college-educated men, which in turn has diminished their options in the dating pool (as you might be aware, a couple of Atlantic articles have touched on this issue).
We felt gender distribution was an important factor for the single lifestyle. Census Bureau calculates the number of males per 100 females.
The more equal the population gender ratio, the better for all. We used that number to determine the city that was closest to a 1:1 ratio.
Below, we break down each statistic and point to its origin with the data point’s and category’s weighting listed in parentheses.