After divorcing, "Ex-Abuser," as he signed his letter, entered therapy and said it helped him "understand my reasons for the abuse, and the effect it had on both my wife and our relationship." Also after the divorce, he and his ex-wife went to therapy together and "the abuse was addressed and some amount of nascent healing took place." Now Ex-Abuser is in a new relationship with a woman he seems to want to spend his life with. Not only is he afraid his new girlfriend will ditch him if she knows, but his ex-wife is threatening to spill the beans herself. Of course, Ex-Abuser should tell his girlfriend himself, but I don't think it'll go as badly as he thinks.
Maybe I'll get my Feminist Card revoked for saying this, but I don't think a man's abusive past should necessarily be an automatic dealbreaker. I believe people can change their mentally ill ways and behave healthily again.
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