Question: What do you think of dating over the Internet? Okay, let me give you some guidelines Browne rule (I know everybody hates it)no dating till one year from the day the divorce becomes final -- not separated or out of love, but divorced.Question: What are your feelings on "open relationships"?What are the signs that your relationship has deteriorated into it?Joy Browne: The term is used to describe the seemingly surprising situation that when an alcoholic stops drinking, often the family structure falls apart rather than gets better.Joy Browne: I'd get a machine and monitor calls or call blocking.There was a guy in college we called Milk of Magnesia.Your heart has always been a risk, now the rest of your body is too, with all the nasty little diseases around. Or should we wait around and try to work things out? I'd drop the complaining about his ex and see how things go with you two. Joy Browne: If there's a question, I'd wait.Keeping sex special keeps your head, your heart, your soul, and your genitals in much better shape. Joy, I dated a woman for two years, broke up, and still have remained best friends for the last year. Joy Browne: Sounds like you both might benefit from no contact for six months or so. If you're friends first, if the sex is great, everything is terrific.
Meeting someone online is okay for a bit of spice or fantasy, but to love someone you have to actually know them, not the fantasy of who you'd like them to be. Kids don't really get dating, and they get attached and confused, and you don't want them to have to go through a second "divorce" or worry about divided loyalty to the other parent. They shouldn't have to deal with your sexuality.That's the advantage of friendship; it can be maintained more easily over time. If the sex is a bust, at least you can talk about it.During the break with no contact, you can decide if you miss each other enough to try again, and both of you will have the chance to see who else is out there with whom you might have a better chance for what both of you want. Since these days you've got to talk about condoms and safe sex as well as contraceptives, you want to make sure you trust this person.With dating advice for singletons in all stages of life (including baby boomers), you'll get the confidence to date someone who is significantly older or younger, someone who has been previously married, or someone with children. Joy Browne, America's favorite psychologist, demystifies the whole dating process, from getting a date, plotting the place, and having a great time (or dealing with duds) to moving beyond a first date toward a budding relationship. Part I: The Starring Roles: Who Am I and Whom Do I Want? If you're on completely different wavelengths, you may be able to convert them to friends or let things percolate a bit by cutting back to a couple of dates a month rather than any more frequently. Joy Browne: I hate to plug DATING FOR DUMMIES so blatantly, but it's about dating your spouse as well. Roosvlt BN: Is it proper protocol for a woman to turn down the first invitation for a date? When in doubt, give somebody the benefit of that doubt, but if you're playing games, playing hard to get, I think it's a really lousy idea to start off on a dishonest foot. Question: I don't want to waste time with someone if I think it's not going to work out. Try being friendly and charming rather than overly flirtatious. You don't have to put yourself on house arrest; it's okay to hang out, work on your abs, join a political campaign, do some volunteer activities, hang out with friends, but no swapping spit for a year, so you've gone through one whole cycle by yourself and know you're not using another person as a emotional Band-Aid.