At the beginning, I was also extremely shy and lacked any sort of confidence.
So I did what most people do these days when they find themselves in a similar situation, I went first on meetic, then on badoo, then finally on Tinder.
In fact I learned enough to write a few books on human relationships, but to resume here are just some of my conclusions about Luxembourg dating 1. In my opinion the current state of the world of relationships is ironically resumed in the lyrics of this old song from Robbie William Everybody is looking for love. This place is too small, there is a limited number of bars and restaurants where you can go.But then, everybody is looking for other things as well: money, sex, security, comfort, excitement, something to show off with, etc. What I’ve learned while looking for love in Luxembourg is that most people don’t know what they are looking for. something Looking for love is like having a blind date. One time, when I was in a holly place where everyone was throwing coins I put a wish: And my wish was granted. In the course of the process of “searching for love” I’ve become closer to some friends and I discovered the real meaning of the word “friendship”. I’ve also met people whom are not close close friends but who supported me, helped me or simply offered time and kind words of encouragement. And I’ve also became closer to my family, which made me understand how you can love and hate someone at the same time. Once, for a concert, I bumped into 3 men I had dated in the course of half of hour.They all (ALL those whom I’ve met) have a great ideal of love and want to find LOVE, but most of them get lost in the way distracted by too much choice (of people, of option), and in the end many settle for less than they even worth. Not to mention the people that I’ve met while attending speed networking or social events at which I went to the hidden agenda of finding a boyfriend. I found many forms, except the one I was looking for. we are all lost, and we don’t know what we’re looking for. Another time, I was trying to forget someone and just when I thought I had him out of the system, I opened City magazine exactly at the page with his smiling picture.So this make it that most people chose instead of rejecting to go on hiding or just disappear. The only person who annoyingly gets in the way of your dream relationship is you. There are and will always be scams, people who will take advantage of vulnerability, or misunderstandings.This is, in my humble opinion, the worse situation ever because of the arguments explained in point 3 and secondly, because when someone who used to be more or less present just disappears, it feels like getting a door in the face when you thought that you were almost in. What I learned from dating in Luxembourg is that you need to learn how to take rejections with grace, and you need to learn how to reject with grace. Our generation has a problem of self esteem, besides the issues enumerated at the beginning. Some will like you, some will hate you, some will pretend to like you.I was feeling like in one of those comedies where the character is thrown in the skin of someone else, or in an unknown place and has to learn quickly what takes years of practice.