The 'gold digger' stigma can also come into play, and suggests that people choose older partners solely for their money."It's a time-honored tradition in Hollywood for older men to date younger women, and cougar couples have become all the rage as well," the New York Daily News explained, in an introduction to a slideshow on the May-December relationship trope in the entertainment industry.To learn more about what these relationships are really like, ATTN: reached out to four people who have dated someone older than themselves via email about their experiences and relationship advice.Ever since “the reset,” as he likes to call it, he seldom goes more than half a day without sending me a good morning, or a how’s your day going, or a funny tweet he saw, or a single, gloriously random context-free emoji (the more baffling, the better).May-December romances are frequently misunderstood. When you're dating someone older, people might assume that the dynamic of the relationship is unhealthy or fundamentally unequal.Maya L., a 25-year-old writer who declined to give her last name, told ATTN: she had dated a 37-year-old man at 25, and a 29-year-old man when she was 22."I try to be open-minded, but sometimes you have to wonder why they're at where they're at. ""He was pretty established, had more money," Maya L.
Part of being honest with one another is accepting that it's okay to have different experiences."Or that certainly he had ill-intentions, because why else would a man his age be interested in someone so young?Now that we've been together for five years, that happens less frequently, but when he lets his beard grow out, which is gray, and we're out in public together, we still get questioning looks from strangers."These stereotypes can also be internalized. "Is it weird they've been divorced, or weird that they've never been married?That night, at home, I received a phone call I wasn’t expecting — and then I promptly recoiled from my phone, hit “decline,” and waited a few minutes before texting him, “hi sorry been on the subway. ” *** To the best of our understanding, it seems my boyfriend never to text me any less frequently.I guess at the blissful old age of 32, he does not, on a minute-by-minute basis, fight off the competing anxieties of “Am I texting too much? ” that I do when I like someone; I guess his texting habits naturally ebb and flow when he gets sick or has a particularly busy week (imagine that).But when I took the hint and stopped texting, he noticed and did the same.