As I grew up, AIM was replaced by texting, but typed-out messages remained my preferred mode of communicating with people I liked and people I dated.
Today, my boyfriend and I are the adults that the ceaseless forward march of innovation dictated we would become: I am a texter (and a constant one), he is a caller (and a when-there’s-a-reason-for-it one).
When your partner looks visibly older than you, people might get a little nasty.
Courtney Croft, a 26-year-old Nashville-based anthropologist married to a 40-year-old man, explained that while she and her partner didn't encounter too many problems in their personal lives, other people didn't always react well to their relationship."Most of the issues stemmed from other people's initial negative reactions of us being together. I had some people flat out say it was gross that I was with someone so much older," Croft said.
But when I took the hint and stopped texting, he noticed and did the same.
Maybe, in the end, this is all just a story of a miscommunication and two people too easily spooked.
Our parents and siblings are around the same age, and we remember plenty of the same music videos and short-lived breakfast cereals of the 1990s.
Maya L., a 25-year-old writer who declined to give her last name, told ATTN: she had dated a 37-year-old man at 25, and a 29-year-old man when she was 22."I try to be open-minded, but sometimes you have to wonder why they're at where they're at. ""He was pretty established, had more money," Maya L.
explained, describing the 37-year-old she had been with.
When he took a whole day to respond to a text, I thought, , and made a point to let his last text message dangle there, suspended in the no-response void, the way mine had.
Later on, a mutual friend of ours would mention to him that I was bummed out by how abruptly things had ended.
Identifying a problem, of course, is never the same as solving it.